Marriage

       This week in class we talked about marriage and dating that leads up to marriage. I thought it was funny when we were talking about what dating looks like these days. Most of the time it is if someone makes out with you, you are a thing. Or, sometimes guys will just make out with you but then won't talk to you after that one day. I think it's so crazy how dating works now. I also don't really like how if you ask someone out or for the there number it means that you like them. That doesn't mean that you can just be friends or you simply just want to get to know them. 

    Another thing we talked about is the 3 P's when dating. The first P stands for planned. This is for the guy or the girl that decided to ask the other person out. They need to have something planned before going. When you ask someone out and you don't plan anything usually it doesn't go very well or it's kinda awkward because you guys just have to sit there trying to figure something out. I really like this one because the planned dates are the dates I usually have more fun on then a date where they pick you up and they ask you what you want to do. I am really indecisive so that doesn't usually go very well for me. The next P stands for paid for. This doesn't necessarily mean that you have to go and actually pay with money, it's more of letting the plan go through and making it work. There are definitely times where you do have to pay and I think that if you're the one who asked the person out you are the one paying, or executing the plan. You don't have to go on expensive dates. You can do something simple like a picnic or a hike, go to the lake or just simple things that are really fun that don't cost anything. But if you ask, it's your responsibility to execute the plan and make it happen and have fun. The last P is paired off. When you ask someone out you are responsible for each other during the date. If you're on a group date that means you stay and talk with the person that asks you out, you can talk to others but you're going to be with the person that asked you out the most. 

    We talked about the difference between "hanging out" and "dating". When you are going on a date you are responsible for each other. It is more of a one on one getting to know each other individually to see if you possibly want to take them out again and if you potentially have something with them later on in the future. When you hangout you don't have the responsibility for someone. You have a group of people you get to know everyone and not just one person. There isn't usually as much pressure as a hangout. There was a girl in my class who talked about how when she is in a group usually she doesn't get that involved in conversations because she is more of a shy person and so they have a hard time feeling more uncomfortable and when she is one on one with a guy she is more forced to talk and to get to know each other. 

My friends major is marriage and family and she had to teach a lesson on how to avoid dating a jerk. I went to her lesson and one thing that stood out to me was that it takes about three months just to find out how a person truly acts. They can put on a fake personality and you believe that's how they act but then you marry them and you find out things that you don't like about them that can cause a marriage to fail and end up in divorce.