Part 2 of Dating and Marriage

    

 This week we talked more about dating and marriage. We talked about how engagement doesn't need to be a huge thing just to make the marriage great too. I really like this, an engagement should just be special to you and your partner. I also liked how we talked about keeping the engagement more to yourselves than going out and telling everyone so they don't get all involved. My professor talked about his engagement to his wife and how he had this whole plan that was big and super cute, but his wife was just not feeling good that day so they ended up going back to one of their houses and had a picnic and his mom or grandma made a quilt that said will you marry me. I thought that was so cute because it was really intimate and personal to both of them. It didn't need to be this huge thing just so the marriage would work out. It just needs to be personal to you. Another thing we talked about is how most women don't want to have the guy propose to you in front of a big crowd. You are putting more pressure on the women to say yes. What if they weren't really for an engagement 

    We also talked about the cost of a marriage. I think honestly you do what you want to do but, you can make the reception super special but also on the cheaper side. As a younger couple that doesn't have the most money in the world you can save some things on a wedding that you don't necessarily need and save it for college, or just money in general that will help you financially afterwards. 

 I do think that if you're a man and want to marry your woman it is important that you get permission from the girl's dad. Even these days I would also mom too. My mom and dad's opinion is so important to me, so I would really want my future husband to ask my parents permission to marry me. It's a tradition to me that really sticks out. It shows a sign of respect to me and my family.

    Another thing we talked about is the difference between a civil marriage and a temple church of Jesus christ of latter day saints marriage. When you get married to someone civil it's more of a promise just to themselves and a claim to kiss them and know one else. When you have a marriage in a Church of Jesus Christ temple it is a very sacred thing. You are promising to make a covenant to God and your spouse. When you have a commitment to God you learn and grow through God which will help you have a better relationship with each other as husband and wife. 

    We also talked about the benefits of marriage. Usually people who get married live longer, to me that's pretty cool. I think when you have significant others you feel loved in a whole different way, you're happier and you want to live more to be with them. Something that relates to this is that they have less depression, less likely to take their own life. They are happier and just happier overall. 

Overall I think marriage is a very important factor of life. You get to have that companionship with someone you love forever. There are definitely going to be ups and downs in life but thats when you grow together and learn and you can even have a family together and teach them how to love and grow together also. 

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