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Part 2 of Dating and Marriage

      This week we talked more about dating and marriage. We talked about how engagement doesn't need to be a huge thing just to make the marriage great too. I really like this, an engagement should just be special to you and your partner. I also liked how we talked about keeping the engagement more to yourselves than going out and telling everyone so they don't get all involved. My professor talked about his engagement to his wife and how he had this whole plan that was big and super cute, but his wife was just not feeling good that day so they ended up going back to one of their houses and had a picnic and his mom or grandma made a quilt that said will you marry me. I thought that was so cute because it was really intimate and personal to both of them. It didn't need to be this huge thing just so the marriage would work out. It just needs to be personal to you. Another thing we talked about is how most women don't want to have the guy propose to you in front of a b...

Marriage

         This week in class we talked about marriage and dating that leads up to marriage. I thought it was funny when we were talking about what dating looks like these days. Most of the time it is if someone makes out with you, you are a thing. Or, sometimes guys will just make out with you but then won't talk to you after that one day. I think it's so crazy how dating works now. I also don't really like how if you ask someone out or for the there number it means that you like them. That doesn't mean that you can just be friends or you simply just want to get to know them.      Another thing we talked about is the 3 P's when dating. The first P stands for planned. This is for the guy or the girl that decided to ask the other person out. They need to have something planned before going. When you ask someone out and you don't plan anything usually it doesn't go very well or it's kinda awkward because you guys just have to sit there ...

Gender

       This week was about Gender. This topic isn't my favorite just because so many people have many different perspectives on gender. One thing that I really did enjoy talking about though was the different tendencies between male and female. Females are more social compared to men and men are more physical. Women are more likely to go out and just talk with people and men are more likely to go play sports. Not saying men or women can't do either, it's just more of a stereotype. Women are more socially aggressive and men are more violence aggressive. When women usually get into fights they say things that hurt they don’t usually physically hurt you they mentally hurt you. I have had some really toxic friends in my life and when they try to hurt me they say things that get to me because they know my insecurities so they use it against me. Men when they have a problem they usually like to physically fight, restle and whatever they do to get their anger out.  Ano...

Diversity

  This week's class we talked about diversity and how it can affect others and their families. My professor did a little experiment in front of the class for us. He had people come up and act like a family that lived in Mexico. So some people were a mom and dad, 2 kids, grandma, uncle, aunt and 2 cousins. The two families have been super close their whole life especially the kids, they hangout almost everyday since they are super close in age.The mom and dad decided they wanted their family to emigrate over to America for their kids so they can get a better education, have a better education and they just want what's best for their kids. Usually when a family emigrates to America or maybe even a different country the dad will go first and see if he can find a place to stay and work hard to earn money so his family can get through and help support them. And when each person goes over to America they pay someone called a coyote to help get them to the USA and it usually costs abo...

Family systems and boundaries

         This week's class I actually really enjoyed. We talked about theories and systems in the family. We talked about how families have boundaries. Lots of families these days are either really closed off, they don't like socializing around others and it's like they built a giant cement wall around their house with barbed wire on top so no one could see into their house or come to their house. Then we have another neighbor whose boundaries are way too open; those are called rigid boundaries where they are very open and very unclear of their own boundaries. They would have no fence around their house and their door would always be unlocked. My professor shared a story of how some girl he knew in his class lived in a house like this where she would have to lock her bedroom door because she would wake up in the morning and not no who stayed over for the night and sometimes she would get home and someone would be sleeping in her bed and that's why she locke...

Week 1- What it's like growing up with different types of parents.

       Hey guys! This week has been such a pretty crazy week but pretty enjoyable. We talked a lot about families this week in family relations and would like to share some of the things that I learned.     One thing that really stood out to me was this quote,"Not a single study has found children of lesbian or gay parents to be disadvantaged in ay significant respect relative to children of heterosexual parents." To me I think that's pretty crazy and honestly don't know what to think. You could think ya thats true just because children's parents aren't straight doesn't mean anything and that everyone is human and can be raised by anyone and still have advantages to things. Or people could think that, thats not true and think that because your parents aren't straight they could have many disadvantages. You could think that maybe their kids would turn out gay or lesbian or that they don't get to see how it's like to be raised by a ma...

A little about me

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  My name is Kali Goodman and I am from Lehi Utah. I am starting this blog for my family relations class so hopefully some of my blogs will help you.I am 18 years old and I am currently majoring in sociology and trying to get into the Social Work program at BYU Idaho.I want to one day be a counselor so that I can help others that are struggling. One of my best friends passed away from suicided about a year ago and he always seemed so happy and was always giving everyone hugs. After his passing it has made me want to help others even more and I want them to know how much they are loved and that so many people care about them.I am taking this class so I can learn more about families and see how I could help families in the future. Some more things about me is that I love to laugh and hangout with friends. I am always the happiest when I am with my friends. I love playing sports, mostly volleyball but I have learned to like playing basketball and football with my brothers. My grandpa ...