Family Relations

This week we talked about the Needs of children. The first one is contact, and belonging. This is very important to know that you mean something to other people. I know for me when someone tells me I matter to them it makes me feel happier and I feel like it's worth living because I know people care about me. If we do this for children it will help them know that they are worth it and that they belong here. They will know it also when they grow up they have learned that they belong so they will grow up with more of a positive mindset. The next one is physical touch. This is also very important knowing someone genuinely cares and it helps them be more calm and relaxed. Our teacher talked about how he had some kid in his ward that was very energetic and was always moving around to the point where he couldn't ever stand still. One day he got up into our teacher's face at church and my teacher didn't really like it. He had an idea that every time he went up to this kid he

Today we talked a lot about fathers and finance but also talked about how mothers and fathers work together to help take care of their families. Fathers are usually the ones that provide, preside and protect their families while the mothers are usually home to nurture and take care of children. Through the Church of Jesus Christ we have the family proclamation and it talks about how mothers have a role to nurture and be with their children and fathers provided and protected and stuff. We were talking about how these days there are a lot of moms and dads who both work and how the roles of both parents would play out. Sometimes the women have the opportunity to make more money than their husband and they want the women to work and have the dad stay home and work less. This takes away the roles of both parents and what they should do. I don't think it's a wrong thing to do, sometimes that's just what's best for the family but if it doesn't really matter it's bette

   This week we have been able to talk about communication. In my opinion I think communication is the key to any good relationships. In my generation I feel like communication has gone downhill. Most people now only communicate through texting or social media platforms. Honestly I do see why people like to communicate through texting and social media because it is easier and faster and they don't have to face them if you're texting them something that is scary or hard to text. The bad thing about it is sometimes you can text someone something and they can take it in a whole different way that interpreted it to mean something mean or hateful. I honestly feel if you can communicate with someone in person and express how you feel you are able to see how they feel and you can work it out on the spot. With my Ex he would mostly only communicate through texting. We would be with each other in person and act kind of sad and I would ask what's wrong and he would say nothing or mak

      This week we have talked about stress but mostly stress within families. I thought it was a very interesting topic to talk about.         One thing I really liked doing was comparing external and internal stresses. We talked about how external stresses we are more likely to work together as a family and become more united when there is a stress. When there is internal stress families tend to come disconnect and not work together to help overcome the success. When we went over the different examples I definitely  thought that the internal stressors where harder than the external. There was some externals that were definitely worse then internal. I honestly think it depends on how you deal with the stress and who you work with to deal with it.     A couple of years ago my family went through a pretty hard trial. My parents decided after living in our house for 12 years it was time to move. They loved the city we were in and the school district we were in so they wanted to move some

This week was a little different lol. We talked about marital intimacy and relationships between a husband and wife. In the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter- day Saints we believe that sexual intimacy is between a husband and wife. It is a commandment or eternal law given to us from our Heavenly father which is God. It is to "bless and help His children achieve their divine potential." It is to help gain more trust between a husband and wife and help them grow physically, spiritually and emotionally together. This might be really challenging to others but if we follow God's commandments he will give us many blessings in our lives and we will be able to see why he would give us commandments. We also talked about how there can be many challenges when you first get married and throughout your marriage. This is the time to talk to your spouse so you can understand each other's needs and be able to work through those problems together. When you have a marriage problem

      This week we talked more about dating and marriage. We talked about how engagement doesn't need to be a huge thing just to make the marriage great too. I really like this, an engagement should just be special to you and your partner. I also liked how we talked about keeping the engagement more to yourselves than going out and telling everyone so they don't get all involved. My professor talked about his engagement to his wife and how he had this whole plan that was big and super cute, but his wife was just not feeling good that day so they ended up going back to one of their houses and had a picnic and his mom or grandma made a quilt that said will you marry me. I thought that was so cute because it was really intimate and personal to both of them. It didn't need to be this huge thing just so the marriage would work out. It just needs to be personal to you. Another thing we talked about is how most women don't want to have the guy propose to you in front of a big

         This week in class we talked about marriage and dating that leads up to marriage. I thought it was funny when we were talking about what dating looks like these days. Most of the time it is if someone makes out with you, you are a thing. Or, sometimes guys will just make out with you but then won't talk to you after that one day. I think it's so crazy how dating works now. I also don't really like how if you ask someone out or for the there number it means that you like them. That doesn't mean that you can just be friends or you simply just want to get to know them.      Another thing we talked about is the 3 P's when dating. The first P stands for planned. This is for the guy or the girl that decided to ask the other person out. They need to have something planned before going. When you ask someone out and you don't plan anything usually it doesn't go very well or it's kinda awkward because you guys just have to sit there trying to figure somet

       This week was about Gender. This topic isn't my favorite just because so many people have many different perspectives on gender. One thing that I really did enjoy talking about though was the different tendencies between male and female. Females are more social compared to men and men are more physical. Women are more likely to go out and just talk with people and men are more likely to go play sports. Not saying men or women can't do either, it's just more of a stereotype. Women are more socially aggressive and men are more violence aggressive. When women usually get into fights they say things that hurt they don’t usually physically hurt you they mentally hurt you. I have had some really toxic friends in my life and when they try to hurt me they say things that get to me because they know my insecurities so they use it against me. Men when they have a problem they usually like to physically fight, restle and whatever they do to get their anger out.  Another thing I

  This week's class we talked about diversity and how it can affect others and their families. My professor did a little experiment in front of the class for us. He had people come up and act like a family that lived in Mexico. So some people were a mom and dad, 2 kids, grandma, uncle, aunt and 2 cousins. The two families have been super close their whole life especially the kids, they hangout almost everyday since they are super close in age.The mom and dad decided they wanted their family to emigrate over to America for their kids so they can get a better education, have a better education and they just want what's best for their kids. Usually when a family emigrates to America or maybe even a different country the dad will go first and see if he can find a place to stay and work hard to earn money so his family can get through and help support them. And when each person goes over to America they pay someone called a coyote to help get them to the USA and it usually costs abo

         This week's class I actually really enjoyed. We talked about theories and systems in the family. We talked about how families have boundaries. Lots of families these days are either really closed off, they don't like socializing around others and it's like they built a giant cement wall around their house with barbed wire on top so no one could see into their house or come to their house. Then we have another neighbor whose boundaries are way too open; those are called rigid boundaries where they are very open and very unclear of their own boundaries. They would have no fence around their house and their door would always be unlocked. My professor shared a story of how some girl he knew in his class lived in a house like this where she would have to lock her bedroom door because she would wake up in the morning and not no who stayed over for the night and sometimes she would get home and someone would be sleeping in her bed and that's why she locked the door. H

       Hey guys! This week has been such a pretty crazy week but pretty enjoyable. We talked a lot about families this week in family relations and would like to share some of the things that I learned.     One thing that really stood out to me was this quote,"Not a single study has found children of lesbian or gay parents to be disadvantaged in ay significant respect relative to children of heterosexual parents." To me I think that's pretty crazy and honestly don't know what to think. You could think ya thats true just because children's parents aren't straight doesn't mean anything and that everyone is human and can be raised by anyone and still have advantages to things. Or people could think that, thats not true and think that because your parents aren't straight they could have many disadvantages. You could think that maybe their kids would turn out gay or lesbian or that they don't get to see how it's like to be raised by a male and a fem

  My name is Kali Goodman and I am from Lehi Utah. I am starting this blog for my family relations class so hopefully some of my blogs will help you.I am 18 years old and I am currently majoring in sociology and trying to get into the Social Work program at BYU Idaho.I want to one day be a counselor so that I can help others that are struggling. One of my best friends passed away from suicided about a year ago and he always seemed so happy and was always giving everyone hugs. After his passing it has made me want to help others even more and I want them to know how much they are loved and that so many people care about them.I am taking this class so I can learn more about families and see how I could help families in the future. Some more things about me is that I love to laugh and hangout with friends. I am always the happiest when I am with my friends. I love playing sports, mostly volleyball but I have learned to like playing basketball and football with my brothers. My grandpa taug